Puissance

What is your Leverage?

What is the deep-rooted fuel for getting this handled? Where do you draw your motivation from? This can all be described as your Leverage.

–My Leverage:
After a long dry-spell without a girlfriend, I finally found one in October 2005. She was smoking hot. This made me feel awesome, and I can remember the first day we were dating, I was riding the bus with my hockey team, and they kept yelling at me to shut up because all I was talking about was how great she was. Within the first month she tried to dump me, for the retarded reason of: (a good girl friend from back home left me a: “i miss you” comment on my nexopia wall). We fought a lot, but we also had a lot of good times. We were in “love”, and people in “love” will make it work no matter what right? We had our whole future planned out within the first 2 months of us dating. The first time we had sex (I think 2 months in), she had cheated on me the night before with my best friend. Ouch! I stayed with her. There are many, MANY other examples of this fucked-up kind of shit, but throughout it all, I stayed. No matter how abusive it was.

The ultimate reason I stayed with her was because I had a huge fear that I would never find another girlfriend again. Scarcity mindset. Ouch! Eventually I finally found my balls and broke up with her, and the next year and a half was a long journey of me losing my balls, finding them again, being super depressed, and being super happy.

Then I found game.

At first I just wanted better social skills, and throughout the journey my motivation/goals have changed, but no matter what, the ULTIMATE (and sometimes sub-conscious) motivation was to NEVER be in that place again, to NEVER feel like I have to be in a shitty relationship because I can’t do any better. That is my leverage, and that is what fuels my fire!

Define your Leverage, and when you begin to tap into it (meaning becoming conscious of it), you will never have an issue with motivation again. Now, take that with a grain of salt, because of course you will lose motivation (I will provide an example below), the difference, is when you become aware that your motivation is dropping, you can remind yourself, “Hey, I don’t want to be in that place again…” and that will kick your ass right into gear it will blow your mind.

Example A:
Yesterday I went to the gym, and decided I was going to ride the bike to warm-up. I figured a 5 minute warm-up was enough, but soon I figured 15 minutes was a good ride. When I looked at my iPod, the mix I was listening to would have ended at around 28 minutes (on the bike), so I thought “why not push myself and go to 30.”

While riding I noticed a girl that was pretty hot, not smoking hot, but hot enough that I would definitely take it somewhere.

Now, I was riding along pretty easy the whole way, and the dude next to me was going pretty hard. I had started before him, but due to him riding faster, he was catching up to my “Miles Biked”. At 22 minutes he passed me, and I had the thought, “Fuck, I should ride FURTHER than him at the end of my 30 minutes.” The next few seconds I was like, “ahh, fuck it, I don’t care.” But pretty quick after I looked at the girl, and realized if I didn’t bike hard and beat him, I would be letting myself down. “No, fuck that, I don’t want to be in that place again.” So I began to bike HARD, there was still 8 minutes left, and the pace I had to keep up to beat him was ridiculous. Anytime I would start to get tired, I would look up and see the girl, and not let myself slow down. I had to win this for myself. Long story short, I did beat him, by about 0.20 of a mile, and that felt a lot better than how I would have felt if I bitched out.

Another example, is back in the day (Roman times), when another country went to war, as soon as they landed on the island (if they took boats), they would burn all of them, so their soldiers knew they either won the battle (and the city), or they died. No turning back, no retreating. That is obviously HUGE leverage, and would definitely be a factor in battle.

So, what is your leverage? What is fueling you to go through the pains of becoming a better man, so you aren’t settling for being mediocre like most other people.

Looking forward to hearing what your story.

Elektro