Reality Wants to Reward You, Homie!

This is Part 2 of my series: Being. It takes a look at different elements to greatly improve not only your internal state, but also your outer success. Combining these four elements, you can achieve the impossible. To catch up, make sure to read Part 1. And once ready, be sure to finish the series by reading Part 3, and Part 4.

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Picture this. You are sitting at home one day thinking about how awesome it would be to have more money. You decide you want to win the lottery. Quietly you laugh at yourself for thinking about something so silly, so impossible. You end up never going for it. You never win the lottery.

Let’s be honest here: the reason you joined the pick-up/seduction community is because you saw the incredible potential to gain control over your life. This applies not only to dating, but also your lifestyle, your career, and your social circle. You aspire to attain the ability to control your life. This pursuit is extremely motivating. You begin to strive towards it. You break the ice; head out on the town. Your journey has officially begun. Surprisingly you start to see progress. Unfortunately by chance you have a rough night or two, and now instead of going to the club on a Saturday night, you quickly find yourself sitting at home reading more and more pick-up material. You no longer see actual progress; all you gain is a brain-full of knowledge. Worse yet you don’t even apply it. You complain and fallaciously give advice on the local lair forum. You keyboard jockey. Sadly deep down you know what to do; you need to go out. You feel pathetic. Fact: 90% of guys that join the pick-up community quit within the first year. You are part of the 90%…

A core component to my philosophy is to give yourself the highest chance for success. A major step towards increasing this percentage is to simply be available to the possibility. How can you expect to win the lottery if you never buy a ticket? How can you get better with girls if you never talk to them?

Unfortunately having absolute control in anything is rare. However one of the areas that you can is your ability to be available. Success will only happen if you are available to the opportunity. Take into account both the mental and physical forms. Are you open-minded to the likelihood that you will be successful? Are you physically putting yourself in situations where success is realistic?

A major shift-in-thinking to implement right now is that reality wants to reward you. Let me say that again… REALITY WANTS TO REWARD YOU! The only requirement is that you are there to accept it. Sitting at home watching pua material all night instead of going out to meet girls is not an example of putting yourself in a situation to be successful.

Let’s break this down logically, using say, approaching a girl as an example. By not approaching (not putting yourself in a situation to be successful) the chance of success is 0%. On the other hand, by approaching, even with the worst game fathomable, you will have at least a 1% chance to succeed (likely much much more). If you get rejected, you are back to 0%, however you have gained valuable feedback to learn from. If you don’t get rejected, you have now been successful. With this in mind, it logically makes absolutely no sense to hold back right?

Nowadays we focus our attention on learning the advanced concepts. We do this before we have even built a strong foundation of the basic (necessary) concepts. Reminding yourself to constantly implement the basic concepts of being thankful, and putting yourself in situations to be successful, are quick and easy ways to see massive progress.

So in the comments section below… tell me: What is a goal you have, and in what situation can you begin to put yourself to attain it?

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