Being involved in the Calgary and Edmonton PUA lairs over the last few years,  I’ve saved a few profound posts from various guys. One of these, “revelations on confidence.. weed is amazing” by user “4real” on the Edmonton board is definitely my favorite. I’ve left it unedited to retain the raw emotion intact. This post WILL hit you. Enjoy.

so im stoned on my way out the door to chill with djmex, im thinkin about life and i figure out how to put some more of my brain into words.

confidence. i’ll tell you how to get it, but first i’ll tell you why you shouldn’t fake it. by fake it i mean study what confident people do and mimic it… this is not good. they have these traits because of something they feel innately; if you try to piece together and reverse engineer confidence you will be at it for a long, long time. not only that, but it might not be as stable as it could be even if you do get it.

why are confident people confident? peter quoted me on something along the lines of “confidence is the ability to handle anything life throws your way”. i’m 5-6 grand in debt, but does it stress me? no. why? because i know i have drive, skill, charisma and i know that eventually i will be able to make that money. so why do people stress? why don’t you have confidence? because you don’t believe in yourself. to get confidence, you should look at the issue at hand and try to figure out what skills you need in order to accomplish it. if you aren’t a confident person in general, spend some time dwelling on yourself. are you afraid of death? does it bother you that no matter what we do, eventually, in the end, ourselves and everything we do, our whole race will be extinguished and no one will ever know humans existed?

there are multiple stages of confidence development and root issues.

ie basic fears -> fear of death, fear of the unknown. all fears stem from these two issues. are you afraid of girls? i don’t think so. not really. deeper, you’re afraid of the unknown. you’re afraid of what might happen. you haven’t experienced it enough to be adjusted to it, you don’t know all the possibilities, you’re afraid because you don’t know. afraid of spiders? why? because they might be able to kill you. you don’t know what it will do if it bites you.

i could be high as fuck and rambling, but i’m very sure i’m just a fucking psychosocial genius. don’t think that realization is a big deal? fuck you then.. keep reading

the reason you aren’t making progress in game is because these root issues cause fear, and you’re trying to cover it by pretending you aren’t. pretending sucks. it feels shitty. it’s restrictive. go home, sit by yourself. nervous? afraid? uncomfortable? anxious? figure out why. i bet it’s because you’re unsure of yourself. and i bet you’re unsure of yourself because you don’t know your limits. you don’t know what you can handle. you don’t know how capable you really are, and you’re afraid that maybe you aren’t.

what’s my point? stop going to clubs, reading useless articles and practicing retarded bullshit. start living life, discover and explore yourself and your limits. go skydiving, see how scared you get. see how confident you are after that chute opens and you realize it wasn’t so bad. walk away from the screen right now, and drive to kelowna.. take a look at how beautiful the lake is. no? because of work? call in sick. what are they gonna do, fire you? so what? get another job. scared you won’t be able to? well fuck you pussy, do it. enjoy the moutains, be amazed by life, think about the fact that you exist at all. when you get to the lake, talk to the other people enjoying the natural beauty. walk around kelowna, see the trees, the beautiful women, the mountains, the water… enjoy it, maybe you’ll decide to stay. maybe, you’ll come back. but when you’re back, you’ll realize that the responsibilities and “restrictions” you THINK you have, aren’t that restrictive. people objectify so many things in their lives, they make problems a physical thing in their mind. you have to realize that you don’t NEED that job, you don’t NEED the stability you think you do. you will feel a lot more free when you come back and have experienced walking away from everything about your life for a day, only to come back and have it all be the same. it liberates you, it allows you to feel how unrestricted you are, it will empower you.

stop being scared. stop being a slave to your own mind. live, experience, gain confidence. be real. you will succeed with women too, but that’s really a miniscule benefit. life is so far above and beyond women its insane, it’s nice to share with them but make sure you aren’t living for women, that’s retarded. live for you.

Here’s a couple sets from the past weekend in Victoria. I had a good time and will be looking forward to the coming months here. With any city, you need to adapt your style. I learned quite a bit about what hits in Victoria and what misses the mark.

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Thursday we hit up Club Sugar. It’s student night. Rolling up at 10pm, the line has already begun to form. The player’s entourage includes: Nick, winnfield, and yours truly. Friendly banter with various girls in line. Standing around talking with each other this girl walks up. After grabbing Nicks ass (can’t blame her) she begins to repeatedly chant “I proved a point.” She spots a group of girls is walking toward the line. “Bitches that’s RIGHT, I proved a point!” After standing in line for 10 minutes I’m able to figure out what this point was: parking in one spot will get you to the club 2 minutes faster. Gold metals all around.

Victoria has two demographics: University students and old people. You will find the university students in all the clubs, and they are much more “ADD” then the typical girls I deal with in Calgary. Start of the school year. Party mood in the air. ADD enhanced.

5 minutes in the line becomes a war zone. People hopping in midway through, sneaking past other people waiting. 2 cute girls do this to me, and of course I call them out. HBcol is surprisingly polite, introducing both herself and her friend. 5 more girls come in. HBcol introduces them as well. Bantering with her, I say I’m from Calgary. One of her friends, a mega-cutie named Sarah, happens to also be from Calgary. HBcol tells Sarah that I’m from Calgary, and from her body-language throughout the conversation I can tell she has a lot of attraction.

Sarah: I’m from Calgary too!!!
Elektro: Cool, going to school?
Sarah: Ya, are you?
Elektro: No.
Sarah: Oh why are you here?
Elektro: To party.

At this point she’s touching me so I push her away and let her know to behave herself.

Sarah: But…
Elektro: So anyways… Victoria is cool. I lived in Penticton for 2 years.
Sarah: Oh, so you’re not from Calgary?
Elektro: I am. Played hockey in Penticton.
Sarah: Oh what level?
Elektro: AAA

I said “AAA” with breaking rapport, and was showing disinterest. Wanting to re-engage, she asks: “Did you ever play against the Royals?”

Elektro: Ya I played for the flames (the NW quadrant rep team is called the flames)
Sarah: No way! What’s your last name?
Elektro: ****
Sarah: No way!!! Do you know so & so?
Elektro: Ya he’s my second cousin.
Sarah: Wow what a small world! His cousin is dating my sister.
Elektro: Cool.

The last half of the conversation she is looking at my lips a lot. I ponder going for the in-line make-out, but opt to continue this inside and push for the pull. With all the chaos inside, I never ended up talking with her again. Best guess: she was on the dance floor all night. No worries, I will see her again, this is a small town.

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Friday the day began with our hilariously annoying landlord coming by. I had yet to meet this lovely woman from Fiji. I introduce myself, and head inside to clean the dishes. When she comes in I begin cheering and thanking her for coming over to help with the dishes! She’s laughing and at one point I actually thought she was going to help out. After cleaning the bathroom, she comes up to me: “Come here I will give you a hug.” Then walks me to the bathroom to show me she finished the job. I let her know not to tease me like that.

If you’ve ever had the chance to meet with Kevin, you will know a core philosophy he lives by is to “make someones day”. The rest of Friday I hung out with Benji. We had two errands to run. First he needed to get his passport picture taking at Walmart, and second we wanted to build an office at our new place so a stop at XS Cargo was in order. The photographer at Walmart was in her high 20s. I took little jabs at Benji during his photo shoot bringing a smile to her face. The photos needed 10 minutes to process, and during this time I took the opportunity to push the set further. I asked where good places to go on Friday were, and she said “Don’t go to Bar Code.” Through her tone and other expressions it was obvious she had a bad experience there. We busting her on it. “I bet you got picked up and he never called you after…” ETC. Mentioning she got in a cat fight, I quickly hired her as my bodyguard. We had to go, but left with smiles all around. Goal: Make her day. Check!

XS Cargo: Benji and I each find a computer chair and desk. The cashier was a mid-30s Asian woman who barely spoke English. I demand a discount. “What? You don’t have a discount for cute Albertan boys? This is OUTRAGEOUS!!!” Smiles all around. Goal: Make her day. Check!

Benji wants to go shopping, so we head to the mall. I helped him build his new avatar (looks awesome), while simultaneously flirting with the gay guy helping us out. Rock on. Goal: Make her day. Check! Head to the cashier, she’s pretty cute, I’d guess 19. Start asking about different places around town, and she’s giving us details on all of them. Ironically letting us know which ones have underage girls, ETC. I again ask for my “cute Albertan boy” discount and get turned down. I tell her I have no friends and she can be my first Victoria friend. She accepts. Eventually we ask how old she is. Hilarity ensues. “18″ she says. Quite the club knowledge for someone who is underage. Interesssting. We leave her with a smile on her face. Goal: Make her day. Check!

Starbucks is our last stop. The girl taking my order asks “how are you?” I say I’m terrible. They all laugh. I order: “Caramel Macchiato with a side of smiles please.” The cashier laughs. The girl making my drink gives me “the look”. Benji goes to order, and isn’t sure what size to get. I say “I like ‘em big.” The girl that gave me the look says she “likes ‘em big too”. Bonus points. We leave both girls laughing. Big smiles on their faces . Goal: Make their day. Check!

At this point I have yet to hit the club and am in full-blown state. At 10pm we meet with the Victoria PUA Lair guys: Trigger, Zulu and Arrow. Head into Upstairs Club, get a stamp, and leave to walk around downtown Victoria for a bit. Make our way back to Upstairs, and the rest of the night was a blast. Here’s one set that stands out:

Two girls walk past us. One grabs my blue fedora, and puts it on HBsixty. I walk up, grab her hard by the waist, and ask “Who are you?”. She says her name is “B”. I ask for actual name, and she says “Brianne”. The whole time I’ve got a lot of hard kino – showing dominance. HBsixty hands her camera to her friend, and kisses me on the cheek. I take ninja stance. I turn to face her and make out ensues. Open to close, 60 seconds.

This is Part 2 of my series: Being. It takes a look at different elements to greatly improve not only your internal state, but also your outer success. Combining these four elements, you can achieve the impossible. To catch up, make sure to read Part 1. And once ready, be sure to finish the series by reading Part 3, and Part 4.

photo credit: aloshbennett

Picture this. You are sitting at home one day thinking about how awesome it would be to have more money. You decide you want to win the lottery. Quietly you laugh at yourself for thinking about something so silly, so impossible. You end up never going for it. You never win the lottery.

Let’s be honest here: the reason you joined the pick-up/seduction community is because you saw the incredible potential to gain control over your life. This applies not only to dating, but also your lifestyle, your career, and your social circle. You aspire to attain the ability to control your life. This pursuit is extremely motivating. You begin to strive towards it. You break the ice; head out on the town. Your journey has officially begun. Surprisingly you start to see progress. Unfortunately by chance you have a rough night or two, and now instead of going to the club on a Saturday night, you quickly find yourself sitting at home reading more and more pick-up material. You no longer see actual progress; all you gain is a brain-full of knowledge. Worse yet you don’t even apply it. You complain and fallaciously give advice on the local lair forum. You keyboard jockey. Sadly deep down you know what to do; you need to go out. You feel pathetic. Fact: 90% of guys that join the pick-up community quit within the first year. You are part of the 90%…

A core component to my philosophy is to give yourself the highest chance for success. A major step towards increasing this percentage is to simply be available to the possibility. How can you expect to win the lottery if you never buy a ticket? How can you get better with girls if you never talk to them?

Unfortunately having absolute control in anything is rare. However one of the areas that you can is your ability to be available. Success will only happen if you are available to the opportunity. Take into account both the mental and physical forms. Are you open-minded to the likelihood that you will be successful? Are you physically putting yourself in situations where success is realistic?

A major shift-in-thinking to implement right now is that reality wants to reward you. Let me say that again… REALITY WANTS TO REWARD YOU! The only requirement is that you are there to accept it. Sitting at home watching pua material all night instead of going out to meet girls is not an example of putting yourself in a situation to be successful.

Let’s break this down logically, using say, approaching a girl as an example. By not approaching (not putting yourself in a situation to be successful) the chance of success is 0%. On the other hand, by approaching, even with the worst game fathomable, you will have at least a 1% chance to succeed (likely much much more). If you get rejected, you are back to 0%, however you have gained valuable feedback to learn from. If you don’t get rejected, you have now been successful. With this in mind, it logically makes absolutely no sense to hold back right?

Nowadays we focus our attention on learning the advanced concepts. We do this before we have even built a strong foundation of the basic (necessary) concepts. Reminding yourself to constantly implement the basic concepts of being thankful, and putting yourself in situations to be successful, are quick and easy ways to see massive progress.

So in the comments section below… tell me: What is a goal you have, and in what situation can you begin to put yourself to attain it?

This is Part 4 of my series: Being. It takes a look at different elements to greatly improve not only your internal state, but also your outer success. Combining these four elements, you can achieve the impossible. To catch up, read Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3.

A book you should read that will have a major impact on your life is Tim’s Ferriss’ best seller the “Four Hour Work Week”. While you read it, he will discuss the concept of setting “Unrealistic Goals”.

The common theory that roams society suggests setting “S.M.A.R.T. Goals.” (Specific Measurable Attainable Realistic Timely) These are definitely important… but what about setting unrealistic goals and going after them with your full effort, just like you would any other goal. What do you think the outcome would be? Do you think you would achieve it? In essence unrealistic goals are the big dreams we all have, and due to society’s social conditioning, have dubbed them “impossible” which causes us to never go after with firm action. As said recently on his blog:

“Be careful about trusting intuition, but be more careful not to bend to the majority for whom -impossible- is a comforting excuse for inaction.”

Dreams have always been intriguing to me, specifically finding out what each persons “childhood dreams” were, and how they relate presently. Unsurprisingly the vast majority are nowhere near them, and very likely due to some silly reason: “My dog ate my homework.”

So what are the Four Elements to Achieving The Impossible?

1. You need to be thankful;
2. You need to put yourself in positions to be successful;
3. You need to be patient;
And finally:
4. You need to define the impossible, take action, and don’t stop until achieved.

These elements are in no specific order. Each and every one is equally important. With that in mind, let’s get started towards achieving the impossible, with element four.

Task: Listen to the song above, and fill in the blanks below (as many times as you want) with something from your own desires (and make sure to post your answers in the comments section):

I wish I was a ____________ I wish I had a ____________

Ready to take action towards your newly defined impossible goals? Be warned, you will have many skeptics, and receive much criticism. Always keep in mind:

“The person who says something is impossible should not interrupt the person doing it.”

Not to mention, as Dean Kamen so brilliantly put it:

“Don’t tell me it’s impossible,” he says, “tell me you can’t do it.” “Tell me it’s never been done. Because the only real laws in this world–the only things we really know–are the two postulates of relativity, the three laws of Newton, the four laws of thermodynamics, and Maxwell’s equation–no, scratch that, the only things we really know are Maxwell’s equations, the three laws of Newton, the two postulates of relativity, and the periodic table. That’s all we know that’s true. All the rest are man’s laws…”

-From Esquire profile titled “How Dean Kamen’s Magical Water Machine Could Save the World“, December 2008.

Still don’t believe the impossible is possible? Need additional inspiration? Watch this whole clip. How many doubters did he have? How did he react? What was the outcome?

Elektro

This is Part 3 of my series: Being. It takes a look at different elements to greatly improve not only your internal state, but also your outer success. Combining these four elements, you can achieve the impossible. To catch up, read Part 1, and Part 2. And once ready, be sure to finish the series by reading Part 4.

Welcome back for the third installment of my series “Being”. Here is a summary of the series thus far: First, you need to just be thankful. That’s it, pretty simple huh? Second, you want to start being available for success to happen, so in other words, put yourself in situations where this can occur. Today I will talk about another pillar to success, which is Being Patient.

Be conscious of what you are putting out to the divine reality.

A very common theme these days is to say something along the lines of: “I want this…” then following up with a time-frame. I will use an example I see all the time during the goal-setting portion of Kingpin Social Programs. Students typically will say: “I want to be good with women… in six months.” Now of course you need to define “good with women”, so the goal is measurable (ie:you know when you have achieved it.)

Logically speaking, if someone says a time-frame (six months for example), you would expect them wait at least six months before expecting to achieve it. This would seem like common sense, but frankly nowadays, it seems far fetched. Likely two weeks after making that statement, one will begin to wonder why they are not “good with women” yet; why they have not achieved this goal! Complaining (not being patient) is an unhealthy habit for obvious reasons, but it also comes with a few side effects. A few of these include: increased stress, increased anxiety, and increased negative energy.

Take this with a grain of salt and understand this is not to say you should avoid using time-frames. Remember to be aware of them, and thus, stick with it. A trick you can use is called milestones. For example, if you have a goal of “being good with girls” in six months, I recommend also defining milestones to accomplish along the way. This method is called small chunking it in. So although your end goal is six months away, you have smaller – (sometimes easier) goals to accomplish in the meantime, and this will allow you to stay motivated. A few reasons why this works:

a) You are seeing growth, you are accomplishing goals;
b) You have a fresh goal quite often, which is easy to get motivation for;

All of these are very crucial in seeing consistent growth and avoiding stagnation; which you will need to have in order accomplish big time goals.

What are some of your goals? Share them with me!

Elektro

When I look back on “Summer 09″, I will definitely think about my new-found love for cliff-jumping. Cliff-jumping was the purpose for my recent trip to Jasper, Alberta. I have a regular spot that I go to near Calgary, with the cliffs being about 40ft high. This gives you a decent adrenaline rush but I also know in order to truly push my comfort zone, I need to conquer higher heights. After doing some research I found a place called “Horseshoe Lake”, which was about 20 minutes from Jasper. The cliffs at Horseshoe Lake stand 85ft tall! Watching videos of people jumping these, I KNEW I had to do it. Now, you also need to keep in mind, getting hurt from 40ft cliffs isn’t likely, but 85ft cliffs have the potential for trouble – just ask this guy, who fractured two vertebrates!

With the weekend off, Adrenaline and I decided we would head out to Horseshoe Lake, and conquer them. Jasper is a 5 hour drive from Calgary, and also a 5 hour drive from Edmonton (where Adrenaline is from), so we decided to make a camping trip out of this.

I packed up my things and headed to Jasper around 2pm on Friday. After meeting up with Adrenaline at 9, we went to find a campsite before dark. He called “Whistlers” campsite earlier in the week to make a reservation, but was told they weren’t necessary as it wouldn’t be a busy weekend. This is a story in itself, but needless to say, the campsite was full. Off to overflow camping we go! After paying for our permit, the worker leaves me with these parting words: “Oh, and there’s a few bears that like you live here, so, make sure you leave the food in your car.” “Awesome…” I think to myself sarcastically.

It’s getting dark out so we are in a rush to setup our tent. What better combination than an aspiring geologist and a dating coach! At last we are all setup, and we decide to head back into town for some beers. While waiting for Adrenaline early in the day, I hung out in a pub called “The Jasper Brewing Co”, and tried their “Blueberry Vanilla Ale”. It was the most delicious beer I have ever had. Wanting to show Adrenaline my newly found treasure, we went back there. Unlike earlier in the day, it was a packed house this time! A few beers, multiple UFC fights, and the entertaining bartender later, we head out to walk around town.

While walking down an empty street, I proclaim “I hear club music!!!” to Adrenaline. We race up the steps to find “Pete’s”, which is the nightclub in Jasper! We are both definitely not dressed the part, but we didn’t care. For the next hour and a half, we just sat around, danced when we wanted to, and that’s about it. At one point Adrenaline decided he wanted to do the cyclone, and went into the middle of the dance floor and just spun.

“Are you guys from here?” asks HBafro, a girl who stood nearby. “No.” we say breaking rapport. She walks off. I am intrigued as to what her motive was. It could be either she is from out of town and wanted to meet locals only, or she is a local and hates tourists. She is also there with a friend, HBmexico, so I figure they are a good match for us. After a bit I position myself properly, and again she asks “Are you guys from here?” I reply “Calgary, he’s from Edmonton.”

HBafro: “I’m from Edmonton too!”
And in true Elektro fashion, I reply “I’m sorry!” with a touch to her shoulder.
HBafro: “You’re sorry!?”
Elektro: “You’re not an oilers fan are you?”
HBafro: “I don’t watch sports. I’m into the underground scene, I’m a raver.”
Elektro: “Cool”
HBafro: “I work at twilight.”

Now here is where a lot of guys would fuck up by crossing the line between qualifying themselves and showing high value. It’s a very simple tweak in language.

Elektro: “That’s cool, I have a friend who plays there a lot, good times.”
HBafro: “Who?”
Elektro: “Jason.” (So calling him by his first name is key, because it shows he actually is -likely- a friend, instead of just some guy you know, and of course, she will ask…)
HBafro: “Who?”
Elektro: “DJ name”

She goes on to say she knows him blah blah blah and I tease her about having really expensive cans of coke. I tested the waters for a pull, because she had a hotel room which is nicer than a tent, so I wanted to see if she would invite us to stay at her place. She didn’t, and although I knew if I pushed for it we could make it happen, I decided I was totally OK with sleeping in a tent. I seeded the day2 for tomorrow, grabbed her number, and went back to our tent to sleep.

Initially we had tentative plans to go cliff-jumping as our day2 around 1pm. Adrenaline and I wanted to go for a hike first, so I sent her:

“Hey, we’re going hiking now, if you want to come text me back, if not cliff-jumping at 1 be ready.”

She sent me a text back saying she wanted to come. When we got to their hotel, Adrenaline was like.. “Ummm, did you not know we were going hiking? You are wearing flip-flops…?” She was totally content with her flip-flops so off we went. Not only was she wearing flip-flops, she was also wearing a “shirt-dress”… or in other words, no pants. We arrive at the Edith Cavell hike entrance, and I throw her sweatpants and a winter coat to keep her warm. She looked so funny, it was awesome. Everyone on the hike kept making fun of her, making little jabs at her choice of footwear. She let them know they were hiking flip-flops, and I reminded her to rock her steez.

We end up at the bottom of the glacier, and decide to go check out the ice cave nearby. What a beautiful site inside it was.Adrenaline wants to see how far we can go inside, and I’m reluctant at first thinking about “safety”. Eventually he convinces me by saying “Dude, you will regret not coming.” So we begin our trek further inside. Did I mention it’s pitch black, and the only light we have is from Adrenaline’s camera flash? I’m pretty scared, and we eventually come up to a point where we will have to slide across these big ice blocks. The height here is low so we have to walk crunched over. Once we reach these blocks, I’m trying to get us to turn back. I’m terrified at this point. He continues to force me to march on, and we find a big stream of water coming down on the other side of these blocks. “Thank god” I think to myself, figuring we had come to the end and could now head back. We see light at the top of this waterfall thing. Sure enough… “I’m going to climb up” says Adrenaline. Fuck! He begins to climb, and while I begin to get very nervous. I can hear a rock falling down this stream, and BAM, it smokes my leg leaving a huge gash. Now not only am I very scared, I’m hurt. If a bigger rock fell down I could be in some serious trouble.

Adrenaline reaches the top, and begins to climb down. This feels like forever. He begins shouting to me, asking if I could find my way back on my own? I couldn’t piece together what he said after that. Did he need help? Or did he think he could climb out and meet me by the front again? So he climbs down and tells me to head back, and he will meet me at the start. I don’t hesitate thinking it was a chance for me to get the hell out of there. Of course, I get lost on my way out, and begin to panic. My legs are shaking. My heart is raising. After a bit I am able to find my way out, and a huge sigh of relief goes through my body. I get out and can see Adrenaline way up the mountain climbing his way down. Amazing. I was so pumped for him, even though he’s absolutely insane.

We meet back up with the girls again and drop them off shortly thereafter. Adrenaline and I part ways, and I get in my car to head back to Calgary. Even though I wasn’t able to go cliff-jumping, I definitely had my adrenaline rush for the day. I had taken a bunch of pictures with my iPhone, but unfortunately it crashed out and I lost them all.

Elektro

This is Part 1 of my series: Being. It takes a look at different elements to greatly improve not only your internal state, but also your outer success. Combining these four elements, you can achieve the impossible. Once ready, be sure to finish the series by reading Part 2, Part 3, and Part 4.

Ever since I have taken a step back from going out (other than to run bootcamp), the epiphany moments I receive seem to dawn on me quite frequently. I can’t say I’m really surprised to be honest. With a lot of extra time lately, I’ve been hanging out with my cousin a lot. He’s one who has played a big role in my life. My extended family is Roman Catholic, and other than my cousin and me, nobody I know of has experimented much with drugs. This caused my cousin and me to get close simply because we could empathize with each other, share stories and also our experiences. Other than when he lived with my family earlier in my life, we haven’t had a lot of time together, say once every few months or so.

In June I moved to a basement suite two blocks away from where he lives. This was very exciting for me because it would allow us an easier access to spend time together. Needless to say, I’ve been hanging out with him a lot. So the other day he invited me out to the local community pub. I arrived and was quite surprised to see him sitting across from another friend of mine – a bouncer at one of the popular clubs in Calgary. Both of them are artists, and I enjoy speaking with them because it allows me the opportunity to receive a totally abstract perspective and different point of view from that I typically get.

At one point my cousin went into about a 30 minute rant. The next 30 minutes re-opened to my eyes to a concept I had been neglecting (along with many others). I have asked him to write a guest post about it, so be on the look-out for this soon. However today I’m going to cover one of the basic concepts he talked about: Being thankful.

This concept was a major player in my recovery from depression in 2007. I watched the movie “The Secret”, and even though it has taken a lot of criticism for its extreme point of views, it did make quite a few good points. One suggestion it gave was that every morning you wake up, the first thing you should do is say “Thank You”. That’s it, simple, wam bam thank you mam! Actively practicing this for a few weeks had a profound effect on my mood, and more importantly, my behaviour.

Too often nowadays everybody wants to have complete control. It’s even the whole basis of this seduction community! I cannot blame anybody for taking actions to gain control over situations, and especially not their own lives, however, I do think we all need to take a step back and just say thanks. The next time you have approach anxiety, take a step back, a deep breath, and just say thank you – thank you for the opportunity to be in this situation, one in which you are able to go approach a beautiful woman. Even if you don’t leave with her on your arm or number in hand, at the very least you went for it, put yourself out there, and remained thankful the whole time. This is really all that divine reality can ask for.

Thank you.

Elektro

Hey guys!

Just wanted to let you all know that on August 8th, 2009, my company (http://www.kingpinsocial.com) will be putting on a FREE Dating Seminar in Edmonton.

Press Release below:

“Kingpin Social will be rockin’ up to Edmonton, August 8 from 2:30 p.m. to 6 p.m. at the Stanley A. Milner Library (basement room), for Kevin’s and Nick’s Day2 (Date) Seminar, “How to Create the Perfect Date.” FREE!

Not only will we show you our stunning formula for success, but also give you the tools to create your own dates. Our system will get you from meet-up to close quicker than you have thought possible, and it can be implemented at any venue with any girl.

You’ll learn the fundamentals to a great day2:
• Key components of a great date
• The perfect formula to gain compliance (the secret to closing)
• How to eliminate awkward pauses and stale conversation

You will also see:
• Field-tested, proven examples of our own personal dates
• How to use rapid escalation in your favor (Close on the first date!)
• The powerful concepts that get her begging for you to take her out again.

Kevin and Nick have years of experience on day2s. They are pure experts. With Kevin’s smooth charisma and Nick’s alpha escalation they’ve devised a secret weapon to make the date (and the girl) work for you. Introducing… THE THEME DATE!

The Theme Date will run so smooth and so effortless that you’ll be converting day2s instead of fearing them. The Theme Date will work for anybody, and we want you to know about it.

This FREE seminar can’t be missed. See you all there!”

Make sure to let all your friends know as well, and definitely do not be afraid to bring girls! This talk will not be all about “pick-up” and “PUA techniques”, but about elements that form a good natural date.

Elektro

Hey guys.

Just wanted to make a quick mention about the Official Calgary PUA Lair that I have ran for quite some time.

You can find it HERE!!!

Also be sure to add me on twitter & facebook (look RIGHT!!!!)

Feel free to sign up on the forums and post, even if you don’t live in Calgary!!!

Talk to you soon.

Elektro