Being involved in the Calgary and Edmonton PUA lairs over the last few years, I’ve saved a few profound posts from various guys. One of these, “revelations on confidence.. weed is amazing” by user “4real” on the Edmonton board is definitely my favorite. I’ve left it unedited to retain the raw emotion intact. This post WILL hit you. Enjoy.
so im stoned on my way out the door to chill with djmex, im thinkin about life and i figure out how to put some more of my brain into words.
confidence. i’ll tell you how to get it, but first i’ll tell you why you shouldn’t fake it. by fake it i mean study what confident people do and mimic it… this is not good. they have these traits because of something they feel innately; if you try to piece together and reverse engineer confidence you will be at it for a long, long time. not only that, but it might not be as stable as it could be even if you do get it.why are confident people confident? peter quoted me on something along the lines of “confidence is the ability to handle anything life throws your way”. i’m 5-6 grand in debt, but does it stress me? no. why? because i know i have drive, skill, charisma and i know that eventually i will be able to make that money. so why do people stress? why don’t you have confidence? because you don’t believe in yourself. to get confidence, you should look at the issue at hand and try to figure out what skills you need in order to accomplish it. if you aren’t a confident person in general, spend some time dwelling on yourself. are you afraid of death? does it bother you that no matter what we do, eventually, in the end, ourselves and everything we do, our whole race will be extinguished and no one will ever know humans existed?
there are multiple stages of confidence development and root issues.
ie basic fears -> fear of death, fear of the unknown. all fears stem from these two issues. are you afraid of girls? i don’t think so. not really. deeper, you’re afraid of the unknown. you’re afraid of what might happen. you haven’t experienced it enough to be adjusted to it, you don’t know all the possibilities, you’re afraid because you don’t know. afraid of spiders? why? because they might be able to kill you. you don’t know what it will do if it bites you.
i could be high as fuck and rambling, but i’m very sure i’m just a fucking psychosocial genius. don’t think that realization is a big deal? fuck you then.. keep reading
the reason you aren’t making progress in game is because these root issues cause fear, and you’re trying to cover it by pretending you aren’t. pretending sucks. it feels shitty. it’s restrictive. go home, sit by yourself. nervous? afraid? uncomfortable? anxious? figure out why. i bet it’s because you’re unsure of yourself. and i bet you’re unsure of yourself because you don’t know your limits. you don’t know what you can handle. you don’t know how capable you really are, and you’re afraid that maybe you aren’t.
what’s my point? stop going to clubs, reading useless articles and practicing retarded bullshit. start living life, discover and explore yourself and your limits. go skydiving, see how scared you get. see how confident you are after that chute opens and you realize it wasn’t so bad. walk away from the screen right now, and drive to kelowna.. take a look at how beautiful the lake is. no? because of work? call in sick. what are they gonna do, fire you? so what? get another job. scared you won’t be able to? well fuck you pussy, do it. enjoy the moutains, be amazed by life, think about the fact that you exist at all. when you get to the lake, talk to the other people enjoying the natural beauty. walk around kelowna, see the trees, the beautiful women, the mountains, the water… enjoy it, maybe you’ll decide to stay. maybe, you’ll come back. but when you’re back, you’ll realize that the responsibilities and “restrictions” you THINK you have, aren’t that restrictive. people objectify so many things in their lives, they make problems a physical thing in their mind. you have to realize that you don’t NEED that job, you don’t NEED the stability you think you do. you will feel a lot more free when you come back and have experienced walking away from everything about your life for a day, only to come back and have it all be the same. it liberates you, it allows you to feel how unrestricted you are, it will empower you.
stop being scared. stop being a slave to your own mind. live, experience, gain confidence. be real. you will succeed with women too, but that’s really a miniscule benefit. life is so far above and beyond women its insane, it’s nice to share with them but make sure you aren’t living for women, that’s retarded. live for you.
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